couple-repo/anki_tingting/cards/communication_paradox.md
StillHammer 1893143f6a Refactor daily check system - Individual card files + 4 new critical finance/marriage cards
Major restructure:
- Split card_database.md into index (5.4KB) + individual card files (cards/*.md)
- 13 cards total: 9 existing + 4 new critical cards

New cards added:
- ACTION-006: Financial Security Setup (Wise/Stock/Estonia + France 3500€ lesson)
- ACTION-007: Income Generation (Freelance/Fiverr/Malta/LinkedIn pro)
- FUTURE-001: Wedding Ceremony Savings (monthly tracking until ceremony happens)
- FUTURE-002: Traditional Chinese Wedding Gifts (cultural respect + budget)

Benefits:
- Scalable structure (can handle 100+ cards easily)
- Easier maintenance (edit one file per card)
- card_database.md stays lightweight as index
- Clear naming (complacency_problem.md vs CORE-001)

Updated CLAUDE.md with new selection process (read database → select 3 → read individual cards)

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Card: Communication Paradox

ID: CORE-002 Created: 07/11/2025 Status: Active


Question

Quel est le paradoxe de communication avec Tingting ?


Answer

Double-bind : Si je dis rien → "tu me dis jamais rien". Si je dis quelque chose de négatif → elle se vénère et retourne contre moi. Si je montre pas d'émotion → "pourquoi t'es pas en colère ?". Résultat : j'évite, ce qui crée de la distance.


Notes

Pattern structurel. Comprendre ça m'aide à naviguer les conversations difficiles.


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